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Your stories

In this section of our website, we share personal stories, videos, poems and audio by people who have been affected by pregnancy loss.

Reading about others’ experiences of miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy or molar pregnancy can be reassuring, and may help you feel less alone. However, the experience of pregnancy loss is different for everyone. What the loss of your baby means to you, and how you feel about it, will be shaped by all kinds of things to do with the person you are and your particular circumstances. So, although you will probably find you share a lot with others, it’s important to remember that no one else’s experience of miscarriage will be exactly like yours.

If you are looking for specific stories, please use the ‘Search stories’ tab below where you can choose from a list of topics.

If you’d like to share your story, have a look at our Days That Matter website, where you can choose a significant date to mark if you want to, perhaps the anniversary of a loss or a due date, and add a photo or picture.

Stories

Pregnancy loss in a mixed culture family

Ola talks about his experience of pregnancy loss in a mixed culture family and the importance of being able to hear stories from people with similar backgrounds.

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Amy’s story: second trimester loss and miscarriage at 9 weeks

Amy describes her experience of losing her son Charlie after her waters broke at 20 weeks and of, 6 months later, having a miscarriage at 9 weeks.

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Sara’s story: honeymoon miscarriage followed by rainbow baby

Sara shares her experience miscarriage and pregnancy after loss.

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Mya’s story: support from the Miscarriage Association

Mya shares her experience of finding support via the Miscarriage Association helpline and support groups, following a miscarriage and during pregnancy after loss.

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Letter to my pregnant best friend

San talks about her feelings around being pregnant again after a miscarriage, compared to the experience of her best friend who’s also pregnant.

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M is for… Miscarriage? Menopause? Miscarriage in the menopause?

Harriet shares her story of pregnancy and 3 losses during the menopause.

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Liv’s story: miscarrying with egg donation

Liv has experienced 3 miscarriages. Her first 2 losses were after IVF, and here she talks about her third miscarriage which happened after using a donor egg.

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Nicole’s story: recurrent miscarriage and IVF

Nicole experienced 7 miscarriages and has been through IVF, including solo IVF. Here, she shares her story and talks about the ongoing impact of her losses.

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Ellie’s story: pregnancy after miscarriage

Ellie shares her experience of deciding to try again and being pregnant after a miscarriage, and finding support.

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Vicki’s story: missed miscarriages and pregnancy after loss

Vicki had 2 miscarriages, including one with twins, before having her baby daughter. Here she talks about her feelings and finding support.

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Angie’s story: 10 years after my miscarriages

Angie experienced 2 miscarriages before having her 2 children. She shares how she feels 10 years on.

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Siobhan’s story: second trimester loss

Siobhan talks about her feelings, finding support and the kinds of decisions she and her partner had to make following the loss of their baby during the second trimester of pregnancy.

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Rosie’s story: an ectopic pregnancy

Rosie shares her experience of an ectopic pregnancy. She talks about her feelings and her worries for her future fertility.

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Diana’s story: chemical pregnancy and a missed miscarriage

Diana reflects on the impact of having a chemical pregnancy followed closely by a missed miscarriage. She also talks about being pregnant again after her losses.

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Beth and Thomas’ story: finding an outlet for grief

Beth and Thomas experienced a missed miscarriage. Here, Thomas writes about their experience, and how his photography became an outlet for his grief.

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Zoe’s story: young people and miscarriage

Zoe had a miscarriage at 18. Now 25, she reflects on her experience, and how she found support that helped her through.

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Jane’s story: a natural miscarriage at home

Jane shares her experience of having a miscarriage at home. She talks about the physical process and hopes her story will help others feel better prepared.

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Elsie’s story: young people and miscarriage

Elsie had a miscarriage when she was 16. She talks about the stigma attached to going through a loss at a young age, and how she remembers her daughter.

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Lauren’s story: a missed miscarriage

Lauren talks about her experience of a missed miscarriage and shares how she remembers her lost baby.

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Charlotte’s story: miscarrying at home

After a diagnosis of missed miscarriage, Charlotte miscarried at home. Her story includes details of the physical process, as well as her feelings about the future.

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Jessica’s story: miscarriage and cultural taboo

Jessica shares her experience of miscarriage, her thoughts on how her culture sees pregnancy loss as a taboo and ways that helped her to grieve and feel less alone.

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Emily’s story: pregnancy loss after IVF

Emily shares her story of IVF, and the three losses she experienced from two rounds. She describes the effect on her mental health, and the difficulty of finding out about other pregnancies in the family.

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Miscarriage experienced as a mother, and a grandmother

Gillian writes about her experience of miscarriage as both a mother and a grandmother.

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We stand together – a letter of support for you from Hannah

After experiencing pregnancy loss, Hannah writes to other women who may be going through something similar.

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Never give up hope – Lucy’s story of having twins after 3 losses

Lucy shares her experience of having 3 miscarriages before having twins.

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Emma’s story

Emma shares her experience of coping with loss after having 5 miscarriages in between having her 3 children.

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Dawn’s story

After having a miscarriage, Dawn describes how it helped to find support from others who had been through pregnancy loss.

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Jessica’s story: the grief doesn’t go away

Jessica had 5 losses, including an ectopic pregnancy, and 2 successful pregnancies. She shares how she has had to learn to cope with the ongoing grief for her losses.

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A partner’s perspective on IVF, loss and when the trying stops

Paul and Liv have been through IVF and pregnancy loss. Here, Paul talks about the impact this has had and making decisions for the future.

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Experiencing recurrent loss in China

From her home in China, Violet shares her experience of recurrent loss and how sharing her story on the Chinese platform Red has helped her and her followers.

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Anxiety during pregnancy after recurrent loss

After three losses, Fiona was very anxious throughout her pregnancy with her daughter.

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Ellie’s story

Ellie shares her story of a missed miscarriage and how it helped to talk about her feelings.

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Miscarriage after IVF

Victoria shares her story of miscarriage after a long journey through IVF.

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Megan’s story

Megan had a missed miscarriage, a healthy pregnancy and then another miscarriage. In her account here, she shares her complex feelings around her losses and hopes for the future.

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Things I wish we all knew about miscarriage

Rachael shares her thoughts after experiencing a lengthy incomplete miscarriage.

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Corin’s story

Corin shares her story of a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks, including details of the physical process.

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I didn’t know I was pregnant before I had a miscarriage

Mabel shares her difficult feelings after experiencing a miscarriage when she was 19 and didn’t know she was pregnant.

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Cristina’s story

Cristina shares the story of her four losses she experienced.

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Laura’s story: finding out about a missed miscarriage at an early, private scan

Laura describes going through a missed miscarriage, with details of the physical loss.

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Talking about second trimester loss or later miscarriage

In our survey on second trimester loss, we asked ‘How would you prefer your loss to be described?’.  We share five of those responses here.

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Pregnancy loss – the aftermath

Kate talks about how recovery from pregnancy loss is different for everyone.

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Why I talked about my miscarriage at work

Vicky shares her thoughts about how important it is for workplaces to support staff affected by pregnancy loss, reflecting on her own experience of a missed miscarriage.

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At the 12 week scan I found out one of my twins had died

Emmeline talks about losing one of her twins in pregnancy and the conflicting emotions and isolation she felt.

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Partners also need support after miscarriage

Scott shares his experience of miscarriage, pregnancy after loss and how important it is for partners to be able to find support.

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Fiona’s story

Fiona shares her story of having a missed miscarriage, with details of the physical process of her loss.

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Peta’s story: 24 years as the Miscarriage Association’s newsletter editor

Peta talks about how she got involved with the Miscarriage Association after experiencing 3 miscarriages, and about how sharing stories can make a real difference.

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Chenay’s story

Chenay found out that she had experienced a missed miscarriage at her 12 week scan. Here, she talks about going through medical management but then requiring surgery, and her recovery.

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Sabina’s story

Sabina reflects on her way of coping at the time of her miscarriages and the impact of her losses years later.

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Feelings five years after miscarriage

Amy shares her experience of miscarriage, returning to work, and how the grief still catches her off guard 5 years later.

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Nadine’s story

Nadine shares her story of a missed miscarriage, including details of medical and surgical management.

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Pregnancy after loss, miscarriage and being 40

Sophie writes about experiencing pregnancy loss twice in 14 months, how it affects her mental health and being in her 40s.

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Charlotte’s story

Charlotte writes about her experience of having a missed miscarriage, including details of the physical process.

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Kate’s diary of a missed miscarriage

Kate’s miscarriage took over a month to complete, here she shares details of her experience of the physical process.

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Why we support the Miscarriage Association through our business

After years of fertility problems, Tamar and her husband Paul had a miscarriage following IVF. Here Tamar shares their story of fertility treatment, loss and how they support the M.A. with their business.

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The trauma of recurrent loss after IVF

Laura has experienced recurrent miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy and fertility treatment. She shares her story here.

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Rose’s story

Rose, a midwife, shares her experience of having a missed miscarriage including details of the physical process. Rose also talks about how she will remember her baby.

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A story of twin loss

G shares her experience of finding out she had lost twins and her feelings about the taboo of miscarriage, including amongst Asian culture.

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Pania – my feelings after miscarriage

Pania shares her feelings after experiencing a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks.

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Natasha’s story: we hope to adopt

Natasha shares her story of recurrent loss, how it has affected her and her husband and their hopes for the future.

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Jayde’s molar pregnancy story

After experiencing a number of miscarriages, Jayde had a molar pregnancy, which she talks about here.

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Margo’s story

Margo shares her story of having a missed miscarriage, after becoming pregnant with IVF.

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Working as a midwife after my own miscarriage

Eve, who works as a midwife, talks about her experience of having a missed miscarriage and how she was supported by her family, friends and colleagues.

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Our adoption rainbow

Emma shares her story of adoption after recurrent miscarriage.

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Jade’s story

Jade shares her experience of miscarriage at 11 weeks, including the physical loss and how her friends and family offered their support.

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Slowly losing my baby

Jennifer shares her story of having a missed miscarriage and feelings of failure after she felt like she didn’t physically experience a ‘real’ miscarriage.

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I had a blighted ovum – there was a sac but no baby

Molly shares her experience of the physical, mental and emotional impact of having a blighted ovum.

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Miscarriage after fertility issues

Erin shares her experience of losing her baby at 7 weeks after 20 months of trying to get pregnant and seeing a fertility specialist.

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I didn’t know I was pregnant before I found out it was ectopic

Lucie shares her story of not knowing she was pregnant before being rushed to A&E with an ectopic pregnancy.

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Second trimester loss after a miscarriage

Anna shares her story of miscarriage at 12 weeks followed by the loss of her daughter, Blossom, at 18 weeks.

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Sarah’s story: being a support group volunteer

Sarah talks about why she became a support group volunteer for the Miscarriage Association.

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Brett’s story: being a media volunteer

Brett shares his experience of being a media volunteer for the Miscarriage Association.

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Miscarriage in a pandemic

Helen shares her experience of having a miscarriage during the coronavirus pandemic, with a detailed description of the physical loss.

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Emily’s story

Emily shares her story of having a missed miscarriage, which happened during the coronavirus pandemic. She talks about her feelings and experiencing flashbacks.

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Choices about my pregnancy were taken from me

Natalie shares her story of finding out she was pregnant and then miscarrying in the space of 48 hours.

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Nicola’s story: recurrent miscarriage

Nicola shares her story of recurrent miscarriage. She talks about the grief she feels and other people’s reactions.

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Having a natural miscarriage at home – what happened and how it felt

Joanna-Marie shares her experience of miscarriage with a detailed, practical account of what physically happened to her.

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Katy’s story: children are not part of my future and that’s ok

Katy shares her experience of recurrent miscarriage. She talks about finding support and her feelings about a future with her wife, without children.

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I had a blighted ovum

Lucy shares her story of finding out she had a blighted ovum at her 12 week scan. She describes the shock of being told and her feelings afterwards.

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Edward’s Syndrome and miscarriage

Charlotte talks about experiencing a miscarriage while preparing to make a decision about what to do after finding out her baby’s chance of survival was very low.

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Kenzie’s story: I was 16 when I had a miscarriage

Kenzie shares her story of having a miscarriage at 16. She talks about how she feels and how she remembers her baby.

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Hayley’s story

Hayley shares her story of going through pregnancy loss 9 times and the impact recurrent miscarriage has had on her.

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Georgina’s story

Georgina talks about her experience of having a missed miscarriage, the physical process and what helped her recovery.

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How long can we keep trying for our second child?

Leanne talks about her experience of having 4 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy. She also shares her concerns about her age and how long she can keep trying for a second child.

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Pregnancy after loss

Danielle shares her experience of what it feels like to be pregnant after a miscarriage.

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Miscarriages during a pandemic

Olivia talks about her experience of having 2 miscarriages, both during the coronavirus pandemic.

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An account of the things I learnt when I was told I would, most likely, lose my baby

Emily shares her story by describing the things she learnt when she experienced a miscarriage.

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Emma’s story

Emma shares her story of an ectopic pregnancy, a missed miscarriage and pregnancy after loss.

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Feelings about pregnancy after loss

Rachel shares her experience of having two miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy. She talks about her feelings about pregnancy after loss and having a miscarriage during the coronavirus pandemic.

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Miscarriage in a pandemic

Katrina writes about her experience of having a miscarriage during the coronavirus pandemic and her feelings afterwards.

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Having a miscarriage while working as a midwife

Working as a Midwife through the pandemic meant that Paige was often the sole supporter of women when Covid meant their loved ones couldn’t be there. And then she found that she was pregnant.

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Lauren’s story

Lauren talks about her experience of having two miscarriages and her feelings when pregnant after loss. She shares how, after having her baby, it is still difficult for her to think about trying again.

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Anjali’s story: I had twins after recurrent miscarriage and IVF

Anjali shares her story of recurrent miscarriage and fertility treatment. She talks about her experience as a British born Indian woman and the difficulties she and her husband faced in talking to their family amidst a cultural fear of how others might judge them.

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I had a partial molar pregnancy

Kory shares her story and describes her feelings after experiencing a molar pregnancy.

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Healing from miscarriage – three things I’ve learned

Emma talks about grieving and healing after a missed miscarriage, and how she and her husband were affected differently.

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Adel’s story

Adel talks about her third miscarriage, with details of having a manual vacuum aspiration (MVA) procedure in hospital.

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Jennifer’s story

Jennifer shares her story of experiencing three miscarriages and how difficult it was for her to talk to anyone about them.

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Rebecca’s story

Rebecca shares her story of miscarriage, with details of being in hospital and how difficult it can be to talk about.

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Bophanie’s story: the pain and grief of miscarriage

Bophanie writes about her experience of a missed miscarriage. She shares her feelings and details of the physical process.

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Home is where my heart is

Sarah experienced a miscarriage at 10 weeks, during the coronavirus pandemic. Here she reflects on her feelings about her pregnancy and loss.

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Making Room For New Things

Dana’s story gives voice to molar pregnancy and the complex emotions women experience around grief and navigating conversations around pregnancy loss.

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Rachel’s story

Rachel describes the pain of multiple miscarriages, both early and late in pregnancy, but reflects that whatever the future holds, she won’t be facing it alone.

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Elisha’s story

Elisha shares her experience of miscarriage during lockdown, and the heartbreak for her and her partner on being separated during such a painful time.

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We set up a support group for LGBT mums after a difficult journey to being parents

Laura-Rose talks of the isolation she and her wife Stacey have felt, both as being mothers together and when they experienced a miscarriage – and how they have used their experience to make a positive difference for other LGBT+ people.

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Zainab’s story – talking about faith

Zainab shares how joy turned to grief when her baby daughter Noa died late in her pregnancy, and how her religious faith helped her feel less lonely after her loss.

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Nicola’s story

Nicola found that being open with work colleagues and friends about her losses meant that people started to open up in return. She reminds us too that not everyone wants to do so.

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Dear Me

Jade’s letter to her younger self carries wisdom and compassion, and the messages that it’s okay not to be okay, that all feelings are valid and that it’s always good to have hope.

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Miscarriage is a lonely business

Amy reflects on the loneliness that she felt during her miscarriages and the pain of seeing the happy milestones and announcements of family and friends.

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Brett’s story

Brett shares his experience of opening up about his losses and how talking has helped him.

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John’s story

John reflects on his and his wife’s second miscarriage and the impact of not sharing their loss or his sadness and pain with those around him.

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Sarah’s story

Sarah shares her story of miscarriage, the isolation and loneliness she felt and its impact on her mental health.

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Michaela’s story

Michaela reflects on the loneliness she felt after the loss of her son, Zachary and how friendship and people listening and not trying to fix her, helped her through.

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Caroline’s story

Caroline describes her seventh loss, following her miracle baby, as one of the one of the most horrific and lonely experiences of her life. CBT and her support group helped her through.

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Sophie’s story

Sophie describes how her miscarriage happened very suddenly and also shares how her and her husband supported each other afterwards.

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Sarah’s story

Sarah experienced recurrent losses in two different workplaces, and found much more support and understanding in the second of the two.

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Donna’s story

Donna’s manager was supportive when she experienced miscarriage, but she wishes he had advised her colleagues to behave in the same way.

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I was dismissed from my job after an ectopic pregnancy

When Sally needed time off work for treatment and monitoring of her ectopic pregnancy, she was put under pressure to return to work.

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Returning to work after my late miscarriage

Zainab’s manager and colleagues were supportive when she returned to work after her late loss, but she still found it very difficult to be back at work.

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I got no support from my workplace after my wife’s miscarriages

When Peter and his wife experienced four consecutive miscarriages, attitudes at his workplace only added to his distress.

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Workplace support after my miscarriages

When Julia and her husband experienced four consecutive miscarriages, her employers were understanding and supportive.

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Different workplaces, very different support after miscarriage

Angie’s two miscarriages happened in different workplaces and their responses couldn’t have been more different.

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Care in the workplace after miscarriage

Hannah describes her experiences of miscarriage and the support and understanding she had at work.

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Phillippa’s story

Phillippa shares her story of experiencing a miscarriage after 4 years of trying to get pregnant, and of going through this during the coronavirus pandemic.

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Emily’s story

Emily shares her story of having a miscarriage in her final year of university, during lockdown.

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Rainbows mean so much to us now…

Megan shares her experience of having a missed miscarriage during lockdown.

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Francesca’s story

Francesca shares her story of having a missed miscarriage and needing emergency surgery.

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Caroline’s story

Caroline talks about experiencing a miscarriage during lockdown, just days before her 12 week scan appointment.

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Leanne’s story

Leanne describes her experience of a missed miscarriage and needing hospital care during the coronavirus pandemic.

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Julie’s story

Julie talks about her experience of having two miscarriages within 6 months, one of which happened during the coronavirus pandemic.

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Jordan’s story

Jordan shares her story of experiencing a missed miscarriage during the coronavirus pandemic.

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Natalie’s story

Natalie tells her story of having had two missed miscarriages – one during lockdown – and how she turned to the Miscarriage Association helpline for support.

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Floriana’s story

Floriana talks about her experience of having a miscarriage in hospital, during the Covid-19 pandemic.

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Rainbows for Brodie – my late miscarriage story

Yvonne shares her story of losing her son Brodie at 20 weeks. She hopes that her story will help others who find themselves in the same situation, to be a bit more prepared for what to expect during a late miscarriage.

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India’s story

India shares her story of experiencing a missed miscarriage during lockdown. She describes the physical impact, her feelings afterwards and what she and her husband did to remember their baby.

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My Baby – An Unfiltered View of Miscarriage

Anjulie and James have experienced three instances of baby loss, most recently with the death of their daughter Summer (aged 19+5). Here Anjulie shares a post from her baby loss blog about her experience of her second miscarriage, which happened unexpectedly at home.

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We wanted to be mums but we miscarried our twins

Shannon talks about the impact having a miscarriage had on her and her female partner.

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Brett’s story

Brett shares his experience of repeated pregnancy loss and having his daughter, and how he hopes that by sharing his story other men going through something similar won’t suffer in silence.

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Karen’s story – volunteering for the M.A.’s support services

Karen shares her story about why she became a volunteer for the M.A. and how she helps support people affected by pregnancy loss.

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Morag’s story – volunteering as a Miscarriage Association Facebook group admin

Morag talks about her role as volunteer for the M.A., helping to support people affected by pregnancy loss after her own personal experience.

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Sophie’s story

Sophie shares her story of a missed miscarriage and how it felt being in lockdown afterwards due to coronavirus (COVID-19).

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Megan’s story

Megan describes her experience of pregnancy loss during the COVID-19 pandemic, and the impact of having to go to appointments alone and not being able to see friends and family.

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Eleshia’s story

Eleshia describes her shock at miscarrying at 14 weeks, without any sign of bleeding or pain.

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Good practice in the workplace

In this example of good workplace practice, Cerian shared her experience of how she was supported by her managers during her miscarriages.

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Becky’s story: missed miscarriage during the coronavirus pandemic

Becky shares her story of experiencing a missed miscarriage during the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, which meant fewer options for miscarriage management and her husband not being able to accompany her in hospital.

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Amy’s story

Amy shares her story of loss, with details of medical management of miscarriage and reduced access to hospital services due to the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic.

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Wendy & Barry’s story

Wendy and Barry share their story of experiencing a miscarriage during the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, with reduced access to hospital services.

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Amy’s story

Amy talks about experiencing recurrent miscarriage after her first child, with details of miscarrying at home.

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If you find Mother’s Day painful then you’re not alone

Lizzie, who has experienced recurrent miscarriage, shares her feelings about Mother’s Day.

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Emily’s story

Emily writes about her 3 losses, including 2 late losses, and her feelings about what the future holds.

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Miscarriage and fertility problems

Emma shares her experience of having two miscarriages and her feelings about the possibility of not having any children.

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Hattie’s Story

Hattie shares her feelings about experiencing a miscarriage after a termination, and about being pregnant again after loss.

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Amie’s story

Amie describes what it was like to miscarry at home, deciding what to do next and her care at hospital.

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Ellie’s story

Ellie writes about her experience of infertility, IVF and miscarriage and the effects on her mental health.

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My story of miscarriage – Beauty from Imperfections

Nanette reflects on how the Japanese concept of wabi-sabi has helped her see her miscarriages in a new light.

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J and J’s story

J shares her story of an unexpected pregnancy and the sadness of her and her partner’s loss.

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Laura’s story

Laura shares her experience of miscarriage, and the importance of support and understanding.

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No man is an island

Dominic shares his traumatic and graphic memories in the hope that it will help others who tend to keep their sadness deep inside.

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Nilufa’s story

Nilufa shares her story of infertility, loss and grief in the hope that it will help others.

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Kyle’s story

Kyle and his wife have experienced six pregnancy losses. He reflects on his feelings during that time.

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Kirsty’s story

Kirsty shares her experience of ectopic pregnancy, IVF and miscarriage.

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Lara’s story

After the third of her six losses, Lara was left with PTSD. Counselling helped her begin to heal.

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I wasn’t sure I wanted to be pregnant but I still miss my baby

Kathy was 15 when she had a miscarriage. She shares her story in the hope that it can help someone going through something similar, so that they don’t have to feel as alone as she did.

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Rebecca’s story

Rebecca shares the story of her missed miscarriage, the physical process of her loss over more than two weeks and the impact it had on her and her partner.

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H’s story

H writes about how the trauma of a miscarriage at 15 weeks has led to ongoing anxiety attacks and insomnia. She reflects on how it has changed her as a person.

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Jennifer’s story

Jennifer experienced the shock of a missed, or silent, miscarriage. She hopes that telling her story will help other women feel like they can talk about miscarriage without feeling shame or stigma.

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I had a miscarriage at 16

Sixteen-year-old Amelia shares her experience of having a miscarriage before she realised she was pregnant.

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Talking about my late miscarriage is helping me heal

Zainab shares her story of late miscarriage and how talking is helping her to heal.

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Mel’s story

Mel was diagnosed with suspected PTSD after a missed miscarriage. She writes about what happened and how she got through the darkest times.

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Anxiety and depression after my second and third miscarriages

Angela writes about how her mental health deteriorated after her second and third miscarriages.

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Jess’ story

Jess thought she was OK after her miscarriage – but she fell into a deep depression when her sister announced she was pregnant.

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I had panic attacks after losing my daughter Luna in the second trimester

Hayley experienced anxiety, depression and panic attacks after losing her daughter Luna at 19 weeks.

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Josh’s story

Josh shares his experience of miscarriage from a partner’s perspective.

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Sophie’s story

Sophie shares her experience of a missed miscarriage and how she wants to help others by telling her story.

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Sarah’s story

Sarah writes about having a missed miscarriage that was then diagnosed as a partial molar pregnancy.

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Colette’s story

Colette shares her experience of a missed miscarriage that was then diagnosed as a partial molar pregnancy.

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The 1%: My story of recurrent miscarriage

Amy shares her experience of recurrent miscarriage.

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Missed miscarriage

D.L. shares the story of her missed miscarriage and her continuing journey.

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An account of a natural miscarriage at home

Diagnosed with a missed miscarriage, Pavla opted to miscarry naturally at home.

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Talking to my daughter about miscarriage

Nicola reflects on how hard it was to tell their daughter that their baby had died.

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Miscarriage and depression

Siân describes the impact of her miscarriages on her mental health.

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I had a miscarriage over 40 years ago, I still think of them

I still sometimes dwell on the fact that I am in a way a mother of two, but the other ‘child’ is not known by anyone or acknowledged in any way, except by me, as my husband has now died.

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I had a second trimester loss

Sarah writes about having a miscarriage at 17 weeks and talking to her 7 year old son about it.

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I felt a previous abortion was to blame for my miscarriages

Bea shares her story of miscarriage after an abortion, and feelings during pregnancy after loss.

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Gemma’s story

Gemma shares her story of being pregnant again after a missed miscarriage.

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Looking after myself during pregnancy after recurrent loss

Cathy shares her story of being pregnant after 3 losses, including a molar pregnancy.

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Angie’s story

Angie shares how she felt being pregnant after 2 losses.

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Nicola’s story

Nicola had multiple miscarriages and shares how she felt during her pregnancies.

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Rebecca’s story

Rebecca writes about her pregnancy following a miscarriage at 18 weeks.

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Sally’s story

Sally had 6 losses, including an ectopic pregnancy and writes about coping with her feelings during her pregnancies.

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Donna’s story

Donna shares how the experience of 3 miscarriages affected her during her following pregnancies.

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Claire’s story

Claire had multiple miscarriages and writes about how she dealt with anxiety during her pregnancies.

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Pregnancy after four miscarriages

Kathryn writes about the range of emotions she felt when pregnant after 4 miscarriages.

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Nina’s story

Nina writes about finding support during her pregnancy after 6 miscarriages.

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Rebecca’s story

Rebecca had a miscarriage at 18 weeks.

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Cathy’s story

Cathy had 3 losses, including a partial molar pregnancy.

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Gilly’s story

Gilly shares her story of three miscarriages, including two losses after starting fertility treatment.

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Claire’s story

Claire describes her experience of an ectopic pregnancy and how she and her husband have coped.

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Uzma’s story

Uzma shares her feelings of grief and thoughts of the future after her second miscarriage in an eight month period.

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Precious’ story

Precious writes about her miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy, and shares her advice on how to comfort someone after pregnancy loss.

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Hush-a-bye Baby

Lynda’s story of the loss of her baby was broadcast as part of Radio Ulster’s ‘My Story’ series on the BBC.

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Keyan, on ‘Simply Say’

Keyan and his wife have experienced five miscarriages. Here he reflects on a partner’s experience of loss and how it’s talked about.

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Natasha and Jay’s story: hope after recurrent loss

Natasha and her husband experienced repeated early miscarriages, as well as the loss of their son at 19 weeks, but they remain hopeful.

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Sophie’s story

Sophie has experienced repeated miscarriages. She shares some of the comments she has received from others.

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Gemma’s story

Gemma writes about her experience of recurrent miscarriage and taking part in the RESPONSE trial.

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Nina’s story

Nina has had six miscarriages between 6 and 8 weeks. She writes about how being open about her experiences has helped.

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Fiona’s story

Fiona writes about her early losses and society’s misunderstanding of miscarriage.

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Angie’s story

Angie shares the mixed reactions to her two early miscarriages.

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A helpline volunteer shares her personal experience of loss

Michelle shares her experience of having a late miscarriage, and why she decided to volunteer for the Miscarriage Association.

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Miscarriage and friendships

Jennifer shares the things people have said to her after her six miscarriages, and the impact that recurrent miscarriage has had on her and her husband.

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Mother’s Day and my feelings after recurrent miscarriage

Kate writes about experiencing multiple chemical pregnancies and miscarriage, and how Mother’s Day was a trigger for expressing her grief and finding support.

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Jemma’s story

Jemma experienced three miscarriages between the birth of her son in 2010 and her daughter in 2013. She writes about her ongoing grief for her lost babies.

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Néna’s story

Néna writes about her experience of four miscarriages, the birth of her son, and why she became a media volunteer for the Miscarriage Association.

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Sally’s story

Sally shares her experience of multiple miscarriages, and the comfort that she found on social media.

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Nicola’s story

After five miscarriages, Nicola shares the helpful and unhelpful things that people have said, and how she’s now raising awareness to help others.

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Why I volunteer for the Miscarriage Association

Natasha writes about having two miscarriages in a twelve month period, the worry of pregnancy after these losses and why she wanted to volunteer to help the Miscarriage Association.

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Ruth’s story

After her third pregnancy ended in miscarriage, Ruth found that blogging and talking to others who’d gone through a similar loss helped her through.

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Finding miscarriage support online

Nicole shares her experience of three early miscarriages, and finding support online.

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Hayley’s story

After giving birth to a healthy boy in 2013, Hayley experienced two miscarriages in 2016. She writes here about how talking about her experience has helped.

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Acknowledging grief after pregnancy loss

Kathryn experienced pregnancy loss four times (including a twin loss in one pregnancy) before the birth of her daughter in 2013. She writes about how important it is to acknowledge the grief.

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Andrea’s story

Andrea writes about her two miscarriages and the comments from her colleagues when she returned to work.

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Writing and connecting with others has helped me process my losses

Having experienced six miscarriages, Lizzie shares how blogging and connecting with others has given her a sense of purpose.

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Michelle’s story: other people’s reactions

Michelle shares some of the helpful and less-helpful comments she received over the course of her three miscarriages.

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Amy’s story

Amy started to miscarry the night before her 12 week scan. She writes here about the physical and emotional experience of loss.

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Caroline’s story

Caroline experienced five miscarriages before the birth of her son in 2012. She shares here people’s reactions changed during her journey.

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Paul’s story

Paul shares how talking about miscarriage openly and empathetic support from others has helped him through the experience of recurrent losses.

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Polycystic ovary syndrome and miscarriage

While waiting to start fertility treatment, Lauren found out she was pregnant. Sadly, she miscarried just a few weeks later.

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For Paul and Marc – second trimester miscarriage and mental health

Kathryn miscarried her twin boys 18 weeks into her pregnancy.

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My Baby

Anita shares her feelings on the loss of her IVF baby after years of hoping and planning.

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Why men need to talk about miscarriage

Journalist Keyan Milanian shared his feelings about miscarriage in an online article.

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Miscarriage and the workplace: Victoria’s story

After two miscarriages, Victoria wrote some guidance for her Department.

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Waterbaby – remembering babies lost too soon

Viv Mayer shares her thoughts on marking a loss, following a visit to Japan

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Manual Vacuum Aspiration (MVA)

Karen had an MVA after medical management wasn’t successful.

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Recurrent loss and a successful pregnancy

Néna talks about recurrent miscarriage.

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Jessica and Natalie’s story: a miscarriage after a stillbirth

Jessica & Natalie share their story of the loss of an IVF pregnancy, following the loss of their son at 37 weeks.

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The mummy he used to know – siblings and pregnancy loss

Jemma describes the emotional impact of recurrent miscarriage.

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The Black Devon

A short story reflecting on a missed miscarriage.

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Hrozienko (Raisin) – A Year On

Reflective diary from 3 days to 14 months after a miscarriage.

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My Miscarriage

Kim shares her personal experience of miscarriage and making decisions.

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Miscarriage and marking a loss

Process of natural miscarriage followed by private family burial in a woodland.

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A miscarriage features prominently

A miscarriage features prominently in Richard Burke’s second novel, “Redemption”. In the account below, first published in The Independent, he writes about his and his wife’s experience of ectopic pregnancy and recurrent miscarriage.

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A father’s story

Recurrent miscarriage followed by successful pregnancy.

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Sophie shares the story of her and her partner Charlottes miscarriage

Process of becoming pregnant and miscarrying in a same sex relationship.

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My experience of a partial molar pregnancy after a previous miscarriage

Journey of self-understanding through the experience of miscarriage.

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My pregnancy was unplanned but my miscarriage was devastating

Reflections on unplanned pregnancy and its potential change to rest of life, and then miscarriage.

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Miscarriage – I never thought it would happen to me

Missed miscarriage following earlier successful pregnancy.

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A blessing, a heartache

Two miscarriages, then fertility and relationship problems.

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Dear Sherby

A goodbye letter to a child lost through miscarriage.

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Miscarriage – It won’t happen to me

Nikki shares the shock of two miscarriages and difficulty of finding information.

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I lost my baby 30 years ago

Shelley writes about the need for empathy, understanding and sensitive language.

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Miscarriage journal

Maria recounts her story of six pregnancies: four miscarriages and two healthy pregnancies in between.

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Stuart’s experience of miscarriage after an IVF pregnancy

Stuart shares his experience, and the importance of being open and honest.

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Little Sesame

A description of a missed miscarriage, diagnosed at 8 weeks, confirmed at 9 weeks and then miscarrying naturally.

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My story

A detailed story of recurrent miscarriage, natural and medical management and the value of counselling.

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Miscarriage following a healthy pregnancy

Peter remembers the need both to be supportive and to express his emotions after his partner’s miscarriage.

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Michelle’s story

A year after a successful IVF pregnancy, Michelle conceived naturally, but miscarried at 14 weeks.

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Letters after three miscarriages

A couple share their experience of recurrent miscarriage through letters written to their lost babies.

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I still grieve for our lost baby

Three years after his partner’s miscarriage, Neil shares his feelings of grief and distress both then and now.

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Miscarriage after IUI and IVF

A partner tells of her wife’s miscarriage at thirteen weeks of twins, conceived after several rounds of IUI and then IVF.

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“It does get easier”

Laura shares her story of miscarriage and the next pregnancy, hoping it might help others in similar circumstances.

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My emotional rollercoaster

After a normal pregnancy resulting in her daughter, Kayleigh had a molar pregnancy and then a miscarriage.

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Miscarriage after ICSI

A husband describes the diagnosis of fertility problems, undergoing fertility treatment and then having a miscarriage.

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Losing

Despite saying “I’m always losing things”, Catherine never uses the phrase ‘I lost a baby’.

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Waiting

Flennie reflects on the amount of waiting, of being ‘in limbo’ before, during and after miscarriage.

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My thoughts on seeing a crying baby after an ectopic pregnancy and before fertility treatment

After a ruptured ectopic pregnancy, and still childless, Jessica shares her thoughts on seeing a crying baby.

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A letter to my friends and family

A.L.F. knows that family and friends mean to help, but explains how their comments can hurt.

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We coped with recurrent miscarriage differently – and our son blamed himself

A dad shares his feelings about his wife’s repeated miscarriages, and the impact on his wife and son.

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I had three miscarriages in 12 months

Rachael shares her experience of recurrent miscarriage (with some graphic detail of heavy blood loss).

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7 a.m.

James reflects on a ‘more than upsetting morning’.

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Love and loss

Zoe shares her joy, thoughts and dreams when her pregnancy is confirmed and how these feelings change when she then miscarries.

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I lost my baby boy when I was 16 weeks pregnant

Lindsay lost her son Lucas sixteen weeks into her pregnancy. Here she shares her story.

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Keri’s story: a missed miscarriage and natural management

Keri shares her experience of conservative (natural) management. She describes the physical process of passing her baby and her uncertainty about what to do next.

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I’m 18 and I had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks

Holly-mae (18) writes about her miscarriage and how she is coping with feelings of guilt and loss.

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I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks

Kanesha (19) from the USA writes about her miscarriage and tells other young women that they are not alone.

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My identical twins stopped developing at 8 weeks

Chloe (19) writes about how her identical twin pregnancy stopped developing.

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I hadn’t told anyone I was pregnant when I had a miscarriage

Sophia writes about how she coped with a miscarriage when she was 16.

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Jade’s story

Jade was just coming to terms with her miscarriage when she found out it was a molar pregnancy.

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I didn’t just lose my baby, I lost my hopes and dreams

Emily had a miscarriage at home at 14 weeks. She reflects on how online support helped her to feel less alone while she was grieving.

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I want to break the silence

Courteney shares her story to help break the silence around pregnancy loss.

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Martha’s story

Two weeks after her miscarriage, Martha reflects on her experience and her feelings about what happened.

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My little angel

In Babyloss Awareness Week, a year after her loss, Lilla reminds us that fathers can suffer just as much as mothers and that it is important to care for them and the relationship too.

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My 5

Jemma shares her blog entry which reflects on the five babies she has carried and the impact of multiple miscarriages.

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Pregnancy loss in your 40s

Gail reflects on the difficulties facing older women who miscarry, when others don’t understand.

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Down, down, down

Natasza’s personal reflection captures the grief, loss and isolation after a pregnancy loss.

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Trying to make sense of losing our twins through a missed miscarriage

Dan shares his reflections on how he and his wife attempted make sense of their experience of miscarriage.

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We stopped trying for a second child after 4 losses

Sarah reflects on her experience of repeated miscarriages.

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Mona’s story

Mona remembers the loss of her first baby, 41 years ago. Her story was first published on our Facebook group, and is shared here with permission.

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Videos

Nicole’s story: recurrent miscarriage and IVF

Nicole’s story: recurrent miscarriage and IVF

Nicole experienced 7 miscarriages and has been through IVF, including solo IVF. Here, she shares her story and talks about the impact of her losses.

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Janette’s story

Janette’s story

Janette experienced 4 miscarriages in between having her 2 children. Here she talks about the ongoing impact of her losses.

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Writing your miscarriage story

Writing your miscarriage story

Leanne and Mark experienced two miscarriages. Here they talk about how writing down their stories helped them.

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Talking about miscarriage in the workplace

Talking about miscarriage in the workplace

Leanne and Mark talk about how they’ve spoken out about pregnancy loss in their workplace following their experience of miscarriage.

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Leanne talks about pregnancy after miscarriage

Leanne talks about pregnancy after miscarriage

Leanne shares how she felt during pregnancy, and birth, after a previous miscarriage.

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Mark’s experience of miscarriage

Mark’s experience of miscarriage

Mark and Leanne experienced two miscarriages. Here Mark talks about how he supported Leanne, his own grief and talking to friends.

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Leanne’s miscarriage story

Leanne’s miscarriage story

Leanne and Mark experienced two miscarriages, one before and one after having their daughter. Here Leanne talks about the emotional impact and the physical process.

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Faye’s story

Faye’s story

Faye talks about her experience of having a miscarriage at work and the support she would have liked.

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Feelings and talking about miscarriage

Feelings and talking about miscarriage

Tina and Steve share their experience of talking about their miscarriage with others and how good support from family and friends helped them through.

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Pregnancy after miscarriage

Pregnancy after miscarriage

Tina & Steve talk about deciding to try again after a missed miscarriage and what helped them through a very anxious new pregnancy.

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Second trimester miscarriage

Second trimester miscarriage

Bill talks about his wife’s late miscarriage, and his feelings of fear, loss and grief.

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Miscarriage of our IVF pregnancy

Miscarriage of our IVF pregnancy

Mel shares her feelings when her girlfriend’s IVF pregnancy miscarried at 14 weeks.

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My partner’s early miscarriage

My partner’s early miscarriage

Peter shares his feelings of shock, distress and helplessness after the diagnosis of early miscarriage.

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Coping with recurrent miscarriage

Coping with recurrent miscarriage

Nikhil describes coping with his wife’s second miscarriage, and feelings of anxiety, distress and loneliness.

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Recurrent miscarriage and pregnancy

Recurrent miscarriage and pregnancy

Mike talks about his wife’s recurrent miscarriages, medical and natural management, and pregnancy after loss.

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Kirstie’s story

Kirstie’s story

In a video uploaded to Facebook, fifteen-year-old Kirstie tells the story of the late loss of her son Jacob.

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Letti talks about how she coped with miscarrying twins when she was 25

Letti talks about how she coped with miscarrying twins when she was 25

Letti talks about how she coped with miscarrying twins when she was 25

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Lauren experienced two missed miscarriages, two years apart

Lauren experienced two missed miscarriages, two years apart

Lauren was 20 when she experienced her first miscarriage. She talks about her experience of medical management, the anxiety she felt during her second pregnancy and the grief she felt when she miscarried again.

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Sophie had a missed miscarriage and surgical management

Sophie had a missed miscarriage and surgical management

Sophie talks about the grief she felt after experiencing a miscarriage and how her baby daughter and a Parents4Parents group helped her.

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Holly was 18 when she had a missed miscarriage

Holly was 18 when she had a missed miscarriage

Holly’s ex boyfriend blamed her for their miscarriage. Here she talks about what happened and her feelings of guilt and loss.

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Sara was considering an abortion before she miscarried

Sara was considering an abortion before she miscarried

Sara’s pregnancy was unplanned. She had a miscarriage while she was waiting for an abortion. She talks about what happened and how she still feels confused and guilty.

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I supported my friend after she had a miscarriage

I supported my friend after she had a miscarriage

Holly and Billie share their experiences and talk about what you can do to help a friend who has had a miscarriage.

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My wife’s miscarriage

My wife’s miscarriage

Steve describes his wife’s miscarriage, his feelings of helplessness, ‘coping’ and unexpected reminders of loss.

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Poems

You might have been a boy: a poem about miscarriage

Jo Eades shares a poem she wrote about her experience of miscarriage.

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Blue Lilies

Isabella shares her beautiful poem of loss.

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You were loved

Laine shares her poem about the love and pain she experienced with pregnancy loss.

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It’s

Georgie’s poem about miscarriage.

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I never…

Charlotte shares a poem she wrote after a miscarriage, in the hope that it will help others going through something similar.

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Today I went to the park with Mummy

Elizabeth shares a poem she wrote after experiencing a second miscarriage.

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Our little surprise

Sophie shares a poem she wrote after having a miscarriage. Reading the poems here helped Sophie feel less alone and she hopes her words will bring comfort to others too.

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To our first little baby

Laura shares a poem she wrote after having a missed miscarriage.

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I was a ‘we’ but now I’m ‘me’

Grace shares a poem about her experience of miscarriage.

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Hope not fear – recurrent miscarriage

Donna has experienced recurrent miscarriage, here she shares her poem about her feelings.

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May was the month of miscarriage

Ainsleigh shares a poem in which she describes her experience by thanking those that helped her through.

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Overcoming a loss

Vanshika, aged 8 and a half, wrote this poem to express her feelings about losing a sibling, after her mum experienced a molar pregnancy.

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To my baby…

Alex shares a poem she wrote about the devastation she felt after finding out she’d had a missed miscarriage.

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Sailing Boats

Jess shares her feelings in a poem to describe the shock and cruelty of finding out she’d had a missed miscarriage at her 12 week scan.

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Two Lines

Jade shares the poem she wrote to help her work through her emotions following a miscarriage.

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Lumi

Here, Michelle shares her poem.

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Why

Sarah was moved to write a poem after experiencing a miscarriage after undergoing a round of IVF. She hopes that it might resonate with other people going through something similar.

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Grey skies

Floriana wrote this poem about her loss while in hospital.

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When my heart hurts

Jodie shares her poem about her experience of recurrent loss and hopes others may find some comfort in reading it.

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To be a mum

Hayley and her partner experienced a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. Hayley found that putting her feelings into words by writing this poem is helping her to process what has happened.

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Happy 1st Birthday!

Holl wrote this poem to help her as a form of release after losing her baby.

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They had a baby too

Chrisma has lost 2 pregnancies and is yet to have a baby. She found that writing this poem helped her to come to terms with the pain and is helping her in the grieving process.

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A Mother’s Poem

Phillippa’s poem conveys how she feels after having a miscarriage when others talk about being a mummy.

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The Things They Said

Natalie shares her poem of loss, hoping to offer others strength and reassurance that they are not alone.

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Little Olive

In Yasmin’s poem she describes her feelings when she found out she was pregnant and after miscarrying at 10 weeks.

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My ectopic pregnancy

Charlotte shares her poem about her feelings after an ectopic pregnancy, with a reminder that it’s ok to feel however you feel.

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TTC

Holly shares her poem – “Back on our own again, Having another try, The only thing I ask myself… is why?”

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Rainbow – A poem for Eliza

In Vicki’s poem she shares her experience of recurrent loss and of pregnancy after loss.

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Together

Alexandra shares her poem, written about her experience of miscarriage and how she feels that women coming together and sharing the M.A.’s Simply Say message can help.

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95% safe, 100% perfect

Despite seeing a heartbeat and being assured of a 95% chance of her pregnancy being safe, Katie miscarried. She hopes this poem will help others, just as other people’s stories and poems have helped her and her partner.

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Always with you

D.L. writes: “A poem that I hope conveys the heartache and heartbreak following a miscarriage, the reciprocal bond between a mother and her child and the longing that lasts forever.”

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Lost

A poem by Colin Brammer.

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I thought it would be okay

Emma’s poem of recurrent loss and a new way forward.

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The Stolen “I”

Elizabeth notes: “I wrote this after my 3rd recurrent miscarriage – explaining my struggle with a new reality of self and for those around me I felt that I had let down.”

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Finding our way

Liz shares her poem, which she wrote after experiencing 8 miscarriages.

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The Cross One

Lizz wrote a poem while waiting for a second scan to confirm a miscarriage.

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Forty-three grams

Too early to name you were too unfinished

in the womb for anyone to love but me.

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It wasn’t meant to be

The seeds were sown and found their pew
Week by week, our cherished seeds grew
So much excitement filled the air
Hearts full of anticipation, to tell those who care.

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Two lines

Waiting, waiting, so anxiously waiting, the two week wait of hell,
Buying the test, racing upstairs even though it might not end well,
Three minutes is all it takes to show but it feels like a life time,
Hoping, praying, trying to relax, convincing yourself it’s all fine.

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Saying Goodbye

Today we say goodbye to our seedling
Who never saw our eyes
Or even their big brother
Who is so cheeky and kind

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Personal Reflection on Miscarriage

Lost makes it sound misplaced like we left it on the bus
On in the shops or up the street but really this is us.

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10½ weeks

Helen wrote a poem after losing her baby, conceived naturally after four failed IVF attempts.

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For my beautiful Evie Davies that I lost on 24th February 2016

I’m sorry I never met you,
I never felt your touch.
You have three gorgeous brothers,
Who would of loved you very much.

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The love within

I never got to feel you move or hear your tiny heart
The love was all within
I never got to see your face or hold your tiny hands
The love was well within

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My poem from my broken heart

People buzzing round me – it’s just another day,
For me it’s a real struggle to keep my grief at bay.
My baby is in heaven – how can I deal with that?
Trying to be ok and keep my feelings under my hat.

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No chance to shine

With my mind’s eye, I’ve
Watched…
You a thousand times

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My little paper treasure box

There was a box I had so small,
it started like a seed…
And in that box I’d place my all
that meant the world to me…

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I know you are up there

I know you are up there
Looking down on us
You are the angels in the sky
That take away my heart

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Painted toe nails

Hina reflects: ‘Allah had a plan for you and this was not it.’

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Handprint

Though I only saw you as an image on a screen
I still love you, with every inch of my being…

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Speck

You are my fish-flapping, lost, slip of life,
My speck, I had only a short time
With your real-unreal, what-might-have-been image…

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All the Questions

How can I miss you?
I never knew you.
How can I feel empty?
You’d barely begun.

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Siblings

Sisters and brothers, dear my dears,
it was not pleasant for you any time.

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My leaf

It was the tiniest leaf that fell from the big oak tree,
so tiny yet so perfectly formed but never meant to be.

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To Mend A Broken Heart

It’s hard to find the words my darling,
The words people expect to hear.
Like how I can’t live any longer,
Knowing you’re not here.

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Little Beacon

Angry red stain
Signals the end.
5 weeks of attachment
Erased in a moment.

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The little blue line

Such excitement, such joy
We could hardly believe our luck when we saw you appear
Disbelief and a tingle of fear
Our little line of joy

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Still so small

A poem by Charlotte whose baby girl was found to have no heartbeat at 19 weeks and was finally delivered at 19 weeks and 3 days.

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Our little angels

Joy is a wonderful thing were pregnant
The moment we found out,
We were over joyed with happiness
This soon turned to grief

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When the bleeding stops

When the bleeding stops
And I’m still feeling pretty lame
I wish you’d stayed around,
So I could have given you a name

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Hope renewed

So two years later
And too much turmoil
Has been unable to spoil
The wonder of you

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Empty baby

What sort of life
Is taken away
Without a word
Without a say

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Ticking clock

The clock has ticked
Its last…

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Delayed reaction

Three months have past
And slipped through time
And left nothing sublime…

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You came into our lives

You came into our lives
Oh, so briefly!
Your heartbeat a shining light.

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Silent loss

Karen Gardner miscarried her son, Stolly, 18 weeks into her pregnancy. These are her reflections on her loss and that time.

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Loss

After our first loss, we moved on.
As you do.
But our second loss,
over the Christmas period;
somehow
had welded itself to all
that we do.

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For Zamira

A month before what would have been her due date, Karen Mercer wrote the following poem for her baby, Zamira, who died at 8 weeks.

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From dark hours will come joy

I’ve wandered aimless as a dandelion scattered to the wind,
Watched helpless as the tides of emotion sweep across your Mother’s brow,
Seen rivers bathe her tired cheeks,
And wished I could have known you as she has…

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Welcome to the circle

Welcome to the circle
Of the ladies in pain
Please all join hands
And tell us your name

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Hard to swallow (Miscarriage #2)

Least suspecting times
Catch me with a thought of you

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Not

Not a blob but a baby
Not foetal tissue
But flesh of my flesh
Bairn of my bone.

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Tears of wonder

Sometimes I cry, at any time, any place, I cry.

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Audio

Talking about being Black and the care received during and after pregnancy loss

Zainab lost her baby Noa during her second trimester. She shares her thoughts on whether being Black affected the care she received and what kind of support she feels should be available.

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Jaqueline’s story

Jaqueline chats with Clare about her family and friends’ approach to her loss and subsequent pregnancy.

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Emma’s story

Emma chats with Clare about her experience of pregnancy after loss and coping with scans.

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Erin and Laura’s stories

Erin, Laura and Clare discuss their experiences of coping with early pregnancy after loss.

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