It doesn’t matter how old you are, having a miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy can be a lonely and very upsetting experience.
Young people and pregnancy loss
You might have been trying for a baby or you might have got pregnant by mistake. Either way, it can be a confusing and sad time.
We hope the information on our website will help you whatever your age. But some of you told us that young people’s voices were not being heard and your needs were not being met, so this page is for you.
There’s no ‘right’ way to feel after a miscarriage. Different people react in different ways. Some people feel better quickly and others find it takes a long time.
Everyone’s feelings are different but the young women we spoke to said they had some of these feelings:
Miscarriage leaflet for young people
Our leaflet explains more about what has happened, where you can find support and how to start making sense of your feelings. We talk about
- miscarriage after an unplanned pregnancy and how that might affect you
- who you might talk to
- dealing with difficult reactions
- remembering your baby
- where to find support
You’re not alone
You can hear from other young women who told us about what they found hard and what helped them. Watch* and read some of their stories here:
Kathy was 15 when she miscarried. Although her family knew, no-one ever spoke of it again and she felt very much alone.
Sara was considering an abortion when she miscarried. She talks about her feelings of guilt and loss.
Kirstie tells the story of the late loss of her son Jacob when she was 15.
Letti tells us how she coped with miscarrying twins when she was 25.
Lauren had her first miscarriage when she was 20 and another 2½ years later.
Sophie didn’t tell anyone when she got pregnant at 16, nearly 10 years ago. She writes about how she dealt with a miscarriage by herself.
Amelia hadn’t yet realised she was pregnant when she had a miscarriage at 16.
* Some of the filmed stories are voiced by actors as the young people who talked to us didn’t want to be filmed.
Our How we help page is full of numbers and links. We offer online information and support and a helpline.
We know that calling a helpline can feel weird or scary. Have a look at our infographic here so you know what to expect when you pick up the phone.
Talking about miscarriage
I was terrified of telling my parents as I knew they would be angry. It was a hard conversation but in the end it helped that they knew
Having a miscarriage can be a lonely experience. Talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend, your parents, your friends or your teachers can help.
You’ll find some suggestions here that might help make talking easier.
Billie helped Holly to talk about her miscarriage.