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Why men need to talk about miscarriage

Journalist Keyan Milanian shared his feelings about miscarriage in an online article.

We have felt like we are in limbo, between coming and going, between somewhere and nowhere.

I choked, pulled over in a bus lane, switched the hazard lights on and tried again.  ‘I think we’re having a miscarriage’.

It had taken me by surprise, this sudden grief.  But speaking to my mum on the phone, cancelling the dinner plans we had with her at our local that night, was what brought it crashing to the surface.

A few hours earlier, with me still at work, Amy had called.  ‘I’m bleeding,’ she forced through telephone tears.

I tried to calm her and felt useless.  She called 111, the NHS helpline, and they told her to go to hospital if the bleeding got worse.  It did and I called my mum on the way to A&E.

That was just over 18 months ago.  We have had four more since then.  We have no children and we have felt for a large part of that time like we are in limbo, between coming and going, between somewhere and nowhere.

 

You can read Keyan’s full online article here.   And you can read an article by his wife Amy Swales, also a journalist, on her experience of talking publicly about their miscarriages.