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Counselling after a miscarriage

While we are unable to provide a counselling service, but we do know how helpful professional counselling can be. It’s not unusual to feel the need for extra support after a miscarriage, or miscarriages, or pregnancy loss.

A good counsellor can help you understand more about yourself – and your relationships – and find strategies to help you cope with greater ease. Having some space and time to speak openly about how you feel without judgement or criticism can make a huge difference too.

Finding a counsellor

We appreciate that there are often waiting lists for counselling via the NHS, but you may be able to access counselling through:

Other options include:

Working with/choosing a counsellor

Research suggests that it doesn’t really matter what type of counselling you choose (eg ‘person-centred’ or ‘integrative’). It’s more important that you trust and respect your counsellor and that you feel there is a good ‘fit’ between you.

We know how important it is for you to feel understood, and that it helps if a counsellor has some knowledge of the experience and management of miscarriage by healthcare professionals.

However, this doesn’t mean to say counsellors without specialist knowledge can’t help you. They may help with other difficult feelings like anxiety, low mood or intrusive thoughts.

Whoever you work with, if you feel that they don’t ‘get it’, tell them and explain why. Every miscarriage is unique, and they might need help to understand your experience and needs. If you really don’t feel comfortable, even after explaining things, it’s best to end the sessions and find someone else. This can take courage but it’s worth it.

Relationship counselling

It’s not unusual for miscarriage to strain a relationship. If you are seeking counselling for relationship and/or sexual problems, try Relate or Tavistock Relationships. Both offer low-cost support.

Other support services

You can find information about the support services offered by the Miscarriage Association on our ‘How we help’ page.