Counselling after a miscarriage
The Miscarriage Association does not provide a counselling service, but we know how helpful professional counselling can be.
Finding a counsellor
If you’re looking for a counsellor, whether it’s for you, for you and your partner or for someone else, we’d always suggest that you find out:
- if they are qualified and registered (see BACP and UKCP below)
- whether they have special interest or experience in the issues you want help with – e.g. pregnancy loss
- if there are any costs
- if you can have a ‘no obligation’ meeting or phone call to begin with.
You might also find it helpful to read Phillip Hodson’s guide: Ten Rules for choosing a counsellor.
There are several ways to find a qualified and registered counsellor. You could:
- ask your GP. There may be a counsellor at the practice or they may refer to an external counsellor or the IAPT (see at the bottom of this list). In either case, counselling should be free of charge.
- ask someone whom you know has had counselling if they would recommend their counsellor or the service they have used.
- look at ‘It’s good to talk’ – the excellent website of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. They keep a register of qualified counsellors and you can search by geographical location and by areas of special interest or skill (e.g. bereavement and loss). This will be fee-paying, possibly on a sliding scale.
- check the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP). They also keep a list of counsellors and psychotherapists.
- use the Counselling Directory’s website to read more about counselling and to search for qualified and registered practitioners: www.counselling-directory.org.uk
If you are seeking counselling on relationship and/or sexual problems, try Relate – a long-established organisation with local branches. Their services are fee-paying, possibly on a sliding scale.
If you are looking for counselling related to fertility investigations or treatment, you could try:
- the British Infertility Counselling Association. All counsellors have specialised training in issues relating to fertility problems, including pregnancy loss. NHS referrals may be free or fee-paying; private referrals will be fee-paying.
- if you are seeking fertility counselling in a Jewish context, try Chana, which works with people across the community.
IAPT (‘Improving Access to Psychological Therapies’)
IAPT is an NHS programme in England that offers intervention approved by NICE (the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence) for treating people with depression and anxiety. Therapy is free on the NHS. People can self-refer or be referred by their GP.
To find out if and where there is a service in your local area, visit the NHS Choices website, click on the ‘Live Well’ category at the top of the page, then ‘Services near you’ and search for IAPT. Enter your postcode for information about your nearest centre/s.
Other support services
You can find information about the support services offered by the Miscarriage Association on our ‘How we can help’ page.
If you are seeking support from an Islamic perspective, you might like to know about the Muslim Bereavement Support Service, which offers free and confidential face-to-face and telephone support.