Counselling after a miscarriage

The Miscarriage Association does not provide a counselling service, but we know how helpful professional counselling can be. To find a qualified and registered counsellor, you can:

  • Ask your GP. There may be a counsellor at the practice or they may refer to an external counsellor or the IAPT (see at the bottom of this list). In either case, counselling should be free of charge.
  • Ask someone whom you know has had counselling; they may be able to recommend someone, either NHS or fee-paying.
  • Check the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. They keep a register of qualified counsellors and you can search by geographical location and by areas of special interest or skill (e.g. bereavement and loss). This will be fee-paying, possibly on a sliding scale.
  • Use the Counselling Directory’s website to read more about counselling and to search for qualified and registered practitioners:
  • For counselling on relationship and/or sexual problems, try Relate – a long-established organisation with local branches. Fee-paying, possibly on a sliding scale.
  • For counselling relating to fertility investigations or treatment, try the British Infertility Counselling Association. All counsellors have specialised training in issues relating to fertility problems, including pregnancy loss. NHS referrals may be free or fee-paying; private referrals will be fee-paying.
  • IAPT (‘Improving Access to Psychological Therapies’) is an NHS programme rolling out services across England offering intervention approved by NICE (the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence) for treating people with depression and anxiety.

    Therapy is free on the NHS. People can self-refer or be referred by their GP.

    To find out if and where there is a service in your local area, visit the NHS Choices website, click on the ‘Live Well’ category at the top of the page, then ‘Services near you’ and search for IAPT. Enter your postcode for information about your nearest centre/s.

You might find it helpful to read Phillip Hodson’s guide: Ten Rules for choosing a counsellor.

For more information about the support services offered by the Miscarriage Association, see our ‘How we can help’ page.