Support

The loss of a baby in pregnancy can be an unhappy, frightening and lonely experience.

You might have miscarried in the first few weeks of pregnancy or much later, or you might have had an ectopic or a molar pregnancy. You might have suspected for some time that something was wrong, or the miscarriage may have come as a complete shock. And this may not be the first time that this has happened to you.

It may be that you have had some pain, bleeding or spotting and are having to cope with waiting to find out what is happening. That time of being ‘in limbo’ can be very tough, as Flennie describes here.

If your pregnancy was unplanned or you have been unable to talk to anyone about what has happened you may have extra worries or issues to deal with. There may be other concerns and feelings if it has taken a long time to conceive, or if you are having to cope with the loss on your own.

Whatever your circumstances, some feelings are common, such as shock, a sense of loss, anger, confusion and anxiety. You may feel several of these or none. It is very likely, though, that whatever your feelings, you are not alone: other people will have felt very much the same way.

We hope that you will find support here, whatever the circumstances of your loss.

Please note that we often use the term ‘pregnancy loss’ to include miscarriage, ectopic and molar pregnancy. But sometimes it’s simpler to use the word ‘miscarriage’ for all three.

We also tend to say ‘you’, meaning the woman or couple that has miscarried. We hope that family, friends, colleagues and health professionals may find these pages helpful too.