If you have experienced repeated pregnancy loss, you may have found it much harder to bear than your first or even second loss.
It can be devastating to lose one baby after another. You may wonder if you will ever have a baby – or even whether you should continue trying.
It can be hard to cope with family, friends or colleagues who are pregnant or have new babies. What’s more, you may find that just as you need increased support from those around you, people find it harder to know what to say or how to comfort you.
It’s scary to get a positive pregnancy test result now because I might have to go through the loss and grief all over again. It’s vey different from the happiness and excitement I felt in my first pregnancy.
Looking for answers
Women and their partners are often desperate to know the cause of their miscarriages. Knowing the reason can help make sense of what has happened. And it may also mean that there is treatment available to prevent it happening again – or at least to reduce the risk.
However, more than half of the couples who have investigations for recurrent miscarriage don’t come out with an answer as to why they miscarried. That can be very hard to cope with.
All the tests came back as normal. I was disappointed as I really wanted an answer: ‘Here’s what’s wrong. Take this magic tablet.’
On the other hand, you may feel relieved that you don’t have any major problems. You can also be reassured that this is actually good news. There is no obvious reason why you can’t have a baby and even after several miscarriages you have a good chance of having a healthy pregnancy in the future without any medical treatment.
You might find it helpful to read our leaflet on recurrent miscarriage. You may find comfort from reading others’ stories of recurrent loss, and we’ve shared some of these below. You may choose to share your feelings with others in our online forum, which has a section for recurrent miscarriage. We tell you more about how you can find help here.
You really don’t have to go through this alone.