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Late miscarriage

The experience of late miscarriage can come as a huge shock.

Most miscarriages happen in the first 12 or 13 weeks of pregnancy.  It is much less usual to miscarry after 13 weeks, when many woman and their partners feel that they are safely past any danger period.

When they told me they couldn’t find a heartbeat, I think my heart stopped too.  I was full of the joys being pregnant, only to feel I had been hit by a train head on.

The physical experience of late miscarriage can be particularly distressing.  Some women miscarry naturally, sometimes without much warning, and this can be shocking and frightening.  Others have to have their labour induced before delivering their baby.

Whatever happens, you may have to make very difficult and upsetting decisions about seeing and perhaps holding your baby, about allowing a post-mortem and about what happens to the remains of your baby.  We talk about these things here.

I had to make decisions beyond my wildest dreams.  I was making funeral arrangements when all I wanted to do was to hold the babies in my arms and take them home forever.

In the days after your loss, you may find that your breasts produce milk, which can add to your distress.  You may feel physically and emotionally exhausted.

Marking your loss

Many parents want to mark their loss in some way.  You can find some suggestions and descriptions of what others have done here.

I sowed Viola heartsease seeds all on their own in a pot and when they flowered, they were so small and perfect – a fitting reminder of my loss.

Sadly, miscarriages before 24 weeks are not officially recorded by the Registrar, but it may be possible to have some form of certification from the hospital.  This would note your baby’s name, if you have given one, the date of the miscarriage and perhaps some other details.

Reading, listening, sharing

You may find it helpful to read our leaflet, which contains information about late loss and comments from women who have been through this experience.

You can read Lindsay’s story of the loss of her son Lucas, at 16 weeks.

In a 40 minute broadcast, radio presenter Susanne Courtney talks very openly about her miscarriage at 15 weeks: from the early days and weeks through to her son’s funeral.

And Bill talks about his wife’s illness and subsequent late miscarriage and his feelings of loss and grief.

You might also want to visit our forum, where you can share your thoughts and feelings with others who have been through a late loss.