When Mother’s Day feels difficult after pregnancy loss
11th March 2026
For many people, Mother’s Day is a time of celebration. A day filled with cards, flowers and messages of appreciation.
But for those who have experienced pregnancy loss, the day can feel very different.
Mother’s Day can bring a mix of emotions: grief for the baby you lost, longing for the future you hoped for, or the quiet pain of feeling left out while others celebrate. For some, it may also bring complicated feelings, moments of love, remembrance and sadness all at once.
However you feel about the day, it’s important to know that you are not alone.
Your feelings are valid
For some, they may feel a sense of invisibility, as though their experience of pregnancy loss isn’t recognised or has been sidelined. Others feel unsure whether they are “allowed” to mark the day at all.
But the love you felt for your baby is real, and the loss you experienced matters. Many people who experience miscarriage still see themselves as a mother to the baby they lost. If that is how you feel, you have every right to mark Mother’s Day in a way that feels right for you.
Pregnancy changes the body in lasting ways. Even at a cellular level, the connection between parent and baby can remain long after loss. This is known as microchimerism, which you can read more about here.
One member of our community shared how isolating the day felt after experiencing miscarriage. You may find comfort in reading their story, and others shared by people who understand what this time can feel like.
Read Lizzie’s story: Mother’s Day
You can also explore more personal stories from people who have experienced pregnancy loss here.
Stories like these remind us that many people are navigating the same complex emotions.
A reminder to be gentle with yourself this Mother’s Day
If Mother’s Day feels difficult this year, it may help to approach the day in whatever way feels most manageable for you.
For some, that might mean stepping back from social media and silencing notifications for the day. Others may find comfort in remembering their baby in a personal way, perhaps by writing a message to them, lighting a candle, or spending time somewhere peaceful.
Some people choose to spend the day with supportive friends or family. Others prefer to keep the day quiet and private.
There is no expectation for how you should spend Mother’s Day after pregnancy loss. What matters most is giving yourself the space to feel whatever you feel.
We’re here if you need support
If you would like to talk to someone who understands, our support services are here for you.
Whether through our helpline, live chat or other support options, we are here to listen and offer understanding during what can be a difficult time.
Find support that’s right for you.
Marking Mother’s Day in memory
Mother’s Day is often associated with flowers and gifts. For some people, choosing to mark the day in a different way can also feel meaningful.
If you would like to honour the memory of a little life lost too soon, you might consider donating the cost of a bunch of flowers to help us continue supporting families experiencing pregnancy loss.
