Fertility problems and pregnancy loss

Losing a baby after fertility problems, or having trouble getting pregnant again after a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy, can feel impossible to cope with. Pregnancy loss and infertility can each be devastating on their own. But when you are going through both, that double blow can be desperately hard to bear.

Pregnancy loss after fertility problems

You may have conceived after many years of trying and/or fertility treatment, and then miscarried or had an ectopic or molar pregnancy. You may feel that this is even worse than not conceiving, as the joy of finally achieving a pregnancy was followed by the distress of loss. People around you may encourage you to be positive that you were able to become pregnant, but that may offer little comfort if you think you might not have that chance again.

“I just kept thinking ‘why me?’. Miscarriage is an awful thing for anyone but it was all so much worse for us because we’d waited so long to get pregnant in the first place and I didn’t know if I’d ever be able to conceive again.”

Fertility problems after pregnancy loss

You might be facing fertility problems after ectopic pregnancy or pregnancies. You may have had one or both tubes removed, or been told that the chances of conceiving naturally are low. It may be that you finally gained the courage to try again after a previous loss or losses, only to find that you are not falling pregnant.

“It had been so easy the first time round that I never expected to find I couldn’t get pregnant again.”

If you are facing this double burden of pregnancy loss and fertility problems, it is important to know that you are not alone and that you can find support and from people who understand.

Next steps

You may find it helpful to read our leaflet Pregnancy loss and infertility. It includes information about the causes of pregnancy loss and the experience of infertility, as well as comments from women who have been through this experience. There are links to other organisations that can also be of help.

You might want to visit our forum, where you can share your thoughts and feelings with others. And you might find it helpful to read Jessica’s story, as well as those of other women and their partners who were affected by loss after assisted conception.