Job vacancy at the M.A.

Could you be part of our helpline team, supporting people who have lost a baby in pregnancy?

The Miscarriage Association (M.A.) works to ensure that everyone affected by miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy or molar pregnancy receives the care, support and information that they need.

We are seeking an additional Helpline Support Worker to add to our small team in Wakefield, West Yorkshire. We are looking for someone who can provide a sensitive and informed response to calls, emails and online requests for support and information.

The successful applicant will have excellent verbal and written communication skills, be able to communicate clearly, accurately and sensitively to a range of people on the phone, in writing and online.  S/he will have excellent listening skills, warmth and empathy and be able to cope on a daily basis with people who are distressed.

Salary: £20,138

Hours: 37.5 hours/week.

Location: Wakefield, West Yorkshire.

Applications, to be sent by e-mail, must reach us by 12 noon on Tuesday 9 May.  We will contact short-listed applicants by Friday 12 May and interviews will be held on Wednesday 24 May.

You’ll find all the job and application details here.

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A new website on its way…

We’re looking forward to welcoming you to the Miscarriage Association’s new website in the next month or so.

The design and build incorporates feedback from our service users – about the look and feel, ease of finding what they are looking for, and with content that is as accurate and up to date as it always has been, but also clearer and easier to read.

Once we have ensured that every element works correctly and tested it on our volunteer website reviewers, we’ll make the switch.  At that point, any link that you have saved from before will automatically re-direct to the new site, though you might have to refresh the page the first time you try.

Many thanks to all of who have been involved, from start to (nearly) finish, especially those of you who have allowed us to feature your stories across the website.  With your help, this is going to be a truly helpful and friendly place for anyone affected by pregnancy loss.

 

 

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Support on Mothers’ Day

Mothers’ Day can be a tough time for those of you thinking about babies who died before they were born – especially if others don’t understand your feelings of loss at this time.

One place where people really do understand is in our private Facebook group.  And while the discussion thread below isn’t about Mothers’ Day specifically, it does show the kindness, comfort and support that its members bring to each other.

My thanks to the group members who have allowed us to post this discussion. We have, as promised, kept their posts anonymous to protect confidentiality.

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A:  This is a very heartfelt thank you post to each and every one of you lovely ladies.
I’ve never posted in this group, I sometimes feel I shouldn’t. My miscarriage was years ago and not recent and I know most of you ladies are going through hard times more recently.
I suffered my loss in silence and it had a huge impact. It affected the intimacy with my husband and I and so we have failed to get pregnant. Not so long ago my mum told me I should get some help and I chose this page over talking to someone.

I see all your post and my heart breaks for you, and then I read all the support you give each other and read your kind words. Without even knowing it you ladies have helped me. I’ve seen that what happened to me has happened to other(I wish it hadn’t) I’ve been touched by all your love and support to each other and have started after 6 long years to feel I can move forward. I’d really like to advise any lady not to suffer in silence as the impact can be devastating. But for all you wonderful ladies out there supporting each other, you are all amazing. You’ve all hurt and you still are making time for others, you help others without even knowing and for this I thank you so much

 

B:  You’ve just brought tears to my eyes, what a lovely post. So sorry for your loss, no matter how long ago it was the hole remains. I have seen posts on here from people who didn’t deal with it from decades ago, so good for you to deal with it now. Let us know if there’s anything specific you want to work through with us.

 

A:  That’s very kind, B, thank you x

 

C:  I feel the same way about this group. It’s like my family! Whenever I feel sad or am out and have one of those moments that only women who have had MCs can understand, I think of this group and I feel united together even though I’ve never met anyone! It’s lovely and I’m hoping to do some sort of fundraiser for the miscarriage association at some point to express my gratitude for this group! Xxx

 

D:  Yes since my loss in December I have found this group a great support, we all understand and support each other, it’s such a relief that I have found the group, family and friends have been great and are very well meaning but all of the ladies on here just have such understanding you feel that you are not alone x

 

E:  Bless you A. My miscarriage happened 5 years ago and only a handful of people know. Even some family don’t. I didn’t want my heartache to be someone else’s gossip so I would cry alone into my pillow. I’ve got braver with it over the years, with hints of what has happened.

This group is amazing, I agree. I found even if someone recognises a post, it’s a solidarity comfort. It’s a sad fact that we all share a common heartache, although I think sometimes a gentle comment eases the loneliness. Time continues and love always remains xxx

 

F:  You have brought a tear to my eye too, what a lovely and honest post. I am so glad this group has helped you start to move on, I know it helped me massively too. I was able to ask questions that I simply couldn’t ask anyone else. Xx

 

You can ask to join the Facebook group here.

 

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Reflections on pregnancy loss

The experience of pregnancy loss – miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy – is always unique.  Even though there are often shared elements, everyone’s story is different, like so many experiences in life.

Today we are sharing four stories, with thanks to the parents who have allowed us to do so.

 

The first is an essay by Nuala Ni Conchuir, published in today’s Irish Times.   Nuala had her fourth miscarriage last year, at the age of 45.  She also has three living children. She writes of loss, love and hope – and of the views of others as to whether she should keep trying.

 

The second is a reflection from Jessica.  After a ruptured ectopic pregnancy and still childless, she shared her thoughts on seeing a crying baby.

 

In the third reflection, Lindsay shares her story of losing Lucas, sixteen weeks into her pregnancy.

 

And finally, Neil shares his feelings of grief and distress both at the time and some years later.

 

 

 

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A certificate of loss

When a baby dies before 24 weeks of pregnancy, there is no legal recognition of his or her brief life, no birth or death certificate.

While some parents may be relieved that they don’t have to face the ordeal of registering their loss at the local Registry office, others find this threshold immensely distressing and hurtful.

“He was my baby. I’d seen him on scan, I’d felt him kick.  How can someone say he doesn’t count?”

A recent online petition seeks to lower the age of registration to 20 weeks rather than 24.    That would be welcomed by many parents – although it would not help those whose  babies died at, say 18 or 19 weeks.

Others campaigns have argued that that there should be no threshold at all, allowing the registration of the loss of any baby who dies at any stage of pregnancy.

CertificateIt seems unlikely that the law on the age of viability will be changed in the foreseeable future, but we believe we have an opportunity now to campaign for the wider availability of certificates of loss for those parents who would like them.  These would not be the same as a legal document, it’s true, but they would go some way to marking these tiniest of lives.

The Miscarriage Association – along with other organisations too – has long encouraged hospitals to offer parents some form of certification for babies lost in pregnancy.  We would be delighted if you would share our guidance for hospitals with your local NHS Trust.

We talk about the emotional impact of late loss here.  Our leaflet on late miscarriage provides information about both the facts and the feelings of this deeply distressing experience.  And the Late Loss section of our forum is a very special place for sharing experiences and support.

 

 

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Late miscarriage

ITV’s ‘Coronation Street’ continues to feature a powerful story-line of late miscarriage – one that has had real impact on regular viewers and others too.

It is also one that mirrors real life for actors Kym Marsh and Simon Gregson, both of whom have experienced the loss of a baby late in pregnancy.  Kym Marsh talks here about why she chose to tackle this story-line and her hopes that it might raise awareness.

One the issues highlighted by the programme has been the fact that when a baby dies before 24 weeks of pregnancy ( in this case at 23 weeks) there is no legal recognition of his or her brief life, no birth or death certificate.

While some parents may be relieved that they don’t have to face the ordeal of registering their loss at the local Registry office, others find this threshold immensely distressing and hurtful.

“He was my baby. I’d seen him on scan, I’d felt him kick.  How can someone say he doesn’t count?”

Some bereaved parents have set up campaigns to petition for the law to be changed, either by lowering the 24 week threshold or by removing it altogether.  Sadly, this issue is linked to other legislation (such as the Duty of Care) and it seems very unlikely to succeed.

Others have backed our call – and that of other organisations too – for hospitals to offer parents some form of certification that recognises the significance of babies lost in pregnancy, whatever stage they occur.  You can find our guidance notes for hospitals here.

We talk about the emotional impact of late loss here.  Our leaflet on late miscarriage provides information about both the facts and the feelings of this deeply distressing experience.  And the Late Loss section of our forum is a very special place for sharing experiences and support.

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Late loss

Viewers of ITV’s ‘Coronation Street’ will be aware that this evening’s episode will continue Monday’s storyline of a threatened miscarriage, 23 weeks into the pregnancy.

Credit is due to the programme’s researchers, who worked very hard to get all the details right, consulting us at the M.A. as well as SANDS. The team has also ensured that their helpline provides contact details for both charities.

But greater credit goes to actor Kym Marsh for playing a role that so sadly mirrors her personal experience of second trimester loss.  It is a real testament to her that she wants to ensure that more people understand what it means to lose a baby in pregnancy, as noted here.

We talk about the emotional impact of late loss here.  Our leaflet on late miscarriage provides information about both the facts and the feelings of this deeply distressing experience.  And the Late Loss section of our forum is a very special place for sharing experiences and support.

 

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Our sympathies

We send our sympathies to Zara and Mike Tindall on the announcement of the loss of their baby.

Miscarriage is sadly common – around one in four pregnancies ends before 24 weeks of pregnancy, most before 14 weeks.  Miscarrying after that time – especially when all looks well at the 12 week scan – is much less common and can come as a great shock.  It is hard, too, when the pregnancy has been only recently been confirmed to family and friends – and in this case the public too.

Whenever a miscarriage happens, though, most parents experience it as the loss of a baby and all the hopes, plans and dreams for that child.  Feelings of loss and grief are common and it can be very important to have the support and understanding of those around you to help you through.

We hope that Zara and Mike Tindall find that support and wish them gentler times ahead.

The Miscarriage Association recognises the distress of losing a baby in pregnancy and we offer support and information to anyone affected by it.

See also:

Your feelings after miscarriage

Late loss

Partners Too

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Coping with the festive season

It’s nearly Christmas, as well as the Jewish festival of Chanukah.  A time for celebrating, a time for family and friends and, very often, a time where children and babies are in the forefront of people’s minds.

Some of you will find this a very dark time and might struggle to get through the next few days. Some of you will be deeply thankful for the baby or babies you now have. Either way, many of you will be thinking about your lost babies, the children who might have been.

 

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Please remember that we are here for you.

  • Even when we close for the holidays (Mon 26 and Tues 27 December; and Mon 2 January) we have a small group of volunteers who are happy to offer telephone support. (Call 01924 200799 to get their contact details.)
  • If you join our support forum by 3 p.m. on 23 Dec, or between 28 and 30 Dec, you can post and read messages throughout the breaks, thanks to our volunteer moderators.
  • You can use our Facebook page and groups at any time to share your thoughts and feelings with others.
  • You may want to create a message to your baby or babies on our Lights of Love tree at http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/marking-your-loss/lights-of-love-tree/

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You may also feel that this is a perfect time to support the Miscarriage Association, to help us to be there for others who have lost a baby in pregnancy.  Please consider making a donation and/or visit http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/get-involved/ to see how you can help to make a difference.

Here’s hoping you have a gentle and peaceful holiday season and a happy 2017.

From all of us at the Miscarriage Association.

 

 

 

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Bereavement care after pregnancy and baby loss

A chance to share your views on bereavement care after pregnancy and baby loss:  meetings in London (19 Jan) & Manchester (10 Feb).

 

The M.A. is working with a number of partner organisations to create a national Bereavement Care Pathway.  The aim is to ensure that all parents who lose a baby in pregnancy, at birth or in infancy are offered the same high standard of bereavement care and support, wherever they live.

If you would like to share your views on current and future bereavement care after miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy, there’s an opportunity to attend one of two parent stakeholder events being held in London and Manchester on the afternoons of Thursday 19 January and Friday 10 February respectively.  Places are very limited, I’m afraid, so if you’re interested, please do click on one of the links below as soon as you’re sure you’ll be able to attend.  Do make sure that you click the link for the miscarriage, ectopic and molar pregnancy workshop.

To register for the London meeting and for further info, please click here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/national-bereavement-care-pathway-parent-stakeholder-event-london-tickets-29781527350

To register for the Manchester meeting and for further info, please click here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/national-bereavement-care-pathway-parent-stakeholder-meeting-manchester-tickets-29785725908

More information on the project can be found here:

http://www.uk-sands.org/professionals/national-bereavement-care-pathway

 

 

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